FRIDAY 19TH JANUARY 2024 - THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS: DON'T LET GRUDGES DESTROY YOU
- Keith Gatiramu
- Jan 19, 2024
- 2 min read
Question: Am I holding any grudges against anyone?
Quote: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” - Lewis B. Smedes
In the different relationships we have in our lives, it’s not uncommon for conflicts to arise. However, when those conflicts are harbored and transformed into grudges, the negative consequences can be far-reaching.
Think about someone you are holding a grudge against, how much time and energy is it costing you? Other than just wasting our time and energy, a grudge can have the following negative effects: Physical Health Impact
The weight of a grudge doesn't just burden our mind; it takes a toll on the body. There’s an indication that persistent negative emotions, like those associated with holding a grudge can contribute to stress-related health issues, including high blood pressure, weakened immune systems and even cardiovascular problems.
Mental Well-Being
The mind is a powerful force, and the persisting harboring of negative emotions can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and depression. Holding onto a grudge keeps the mind entangled in the past, hindering personal growth and overall happiness.
On Tuesday 16th January 2024, on a scale from 0 to 10 we rated our mental well-being? Could the fact that we are holding a grudge be the reason that we are not at a 10?
Strained Relationships
Grudges act like poison in relationships, eroding trust and creating a toxic environment. Whether it's friendships, family ties or professional connections, the resentment from holding a grudge can strain and even destroy these important connections.
Missed Opportunities
When we focus our energy on nursing a grudge, it takes aways from our ability to focus on the present and future. We may miss out on opportunities for personal and professional growth as our mental space is occupied by negative emotions.
Escalation Of Conflict
Instead of us resolving the initial issue, holding a grudge often escalates the conflict. The growing resentment can lead to further misunderstandings, creating a cycle or negativity that is difficult to break.
Impact On Self-Esteem
Continuously holding onto resentment can erode our self-esteem. The negative energy associated with grudge tends to internalize feelings of inadequacy, perpetuating a cycle of self-doubt.
NOTES BY TUPAC:
If you’ve heard my Ted Talks, you know that I used to hold grudges against many people. I blamed them and the world for what had happened to me. This not only took my time and energy, but also had negative effects on the above-mentioned areas in my life. To share just one, I affected and damaged numerous relationships during that period, affecting not only those who had wronged me but also individuals connected to them. Regrettably, some of these connections remain unsettled even to this day.
LINKS:
Kevin Hart On Holding A Grudge
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